Finding the strength within ourselves to continue life after a break-up may be challenging for some. If you find yourself reading this blog or searching the internet for answers on this topic, then more than likely you are not alone. Many of us have been broken-hearted; more than once I am sure. I can tell you that the “love” department has definitely been my lifetime struggle. I am successful in everyway, for this I am grateful. Yet…my life puzzle is missing that important piece-LOVE.
I can’t help but smile helplessly when I see those happy couples walking down the street, holding hands, laughing, radiating an amazing connection. I wonder selfishly how that really feels, and if indeed, they are happy. I have been in several relationships through my life-not by choice. I crave for “love”. I dream about my soulmate and all the happiness and laughter that we would share. I daydream about this and I am no novice to this topic. Every relationship I have entered, I did so expecting it would be the “one”. Yet, it did not turn out that way for reasons that I did not foresee. This is what makes it so challenging.
Many times, more than I care to remember I have been left broken-hearted. Feelings that induce anger, sadness, emptiness. Yet, with time I brushed it off and here I stand. Strong! And I guarantee that you can do the same. It is all a matter of healing, and allowing ourselves the time to do so. This is the time where you “date yourself”. During this process, rediscover yourself and do what makes “you” happy. Explore new adventures, new hobbies, new restaurants- but most importantly, EXPLORE YOURSELF. Find your passions. What makes you smile? What makes you happy? Find your strength.
There is no point in reminiscing about a relationship that did not work. Think about it…if you are not together, than more than likely the reasons were there. No one walks away from a great healthy relationship- This was not the right person, or perhaps just not the right time. Although it is not easy, you must stay positive and always keep focused. A positive perspective is key for mending a broken heart. Keep in mind that you are a strong, valuable, amazing person. Love yourself hard! Someone out there will see your worth, and this will happen at the right time, with the right person- and when this happens, a “breakup” will never be an option.
So for now, lets focus on making ourselves better each day. Lets place our head up high, chin up and lets face the world with confidence. Remember that no matter how bad things may appear to be, eventually, everything gets better again.
“Life isn’t about falling. Its about getting up every time you fall” – author unknown